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My cheating alcohol intoxicated wife of 14 years asked me for a divorce on December 22. Apparently, she had an “emotional friend” that is now her “boyfriend”. I filed for divorce the day she called “mr. right” her “boyfriend” on January 26. Not much talking sense then. Yesterday, she sends me this text stating that the house we kinda live in together needs cleaning. She was going to do it. However, the music was not working on the apple Tv. I told here i could fix the music when i got home. She states she could wait until I get home and we could clean the house together. What does this mean, if anything???? ( Source ) I am not surprised by the struggle revealed by this guy. His wife of 14 years who has apparently abused him for the entire marriage is asking for help and he is struggling to know how to respond. This story is often repeated in the threads of Reddit (and elsewhere) and it tugs at me as it continuously shows the truth of men who believed they were getting a "good thin...

 Any good man who marries, does so with the understanding that what is his is now "hers"... We do this without reservation because that's what you're supposed to do...right? I get that a lot of women marry with the expectation that their needs will be handled by their husband. Cars, house, food, electricity... All of these things are bought from the work effort of the good man.  If the couple have a traditional working-husband, stay-at-home wife scenario it is not unreasonable for her to come to "expect" this certain level of support and material care.  I am not certain how to feel about threads where the soon-to-be-ex wife (STBXW) is seeking a certain assurance of continued support. As an example . Is she just looking to take everything she can from the dissolving relationship, or is there genuine need for her to ensure a viable future for herself.  We can't judge fully because we don't see her side, however the familiarity of this story makes me be...

  I don't know what to think and I would appreciate it if any body who has been through the same situation as me to enlighten me on whether he's going to hurt her. Me and her mother both belief that if that happens she's going to crash incredibly hard and may not recover and even though I do wish karma would bite her in the ass for being the terrible person she has become I still care and don't want her to suffer horrifically. ( SOURCE )

Sometimes you run into a theory that explains A LOT and reminds you that your experiences are not unique at all. I was listening to closing arguments at a child support hearing on YouTube. The dad's lawyer accused the mom of having something called the "Golden Uterus Syndrome". This resonated with me immediately. It captures so much. From the video: "Disobedience is abuse to the Golden Uterus. If the father doesn't heed her demands, the Golden Uterus perceives it as abuse. If you don't parent the same way the Golden Uterus parents, you're a bad parent." A quick Google search brought these lines: A golden uterus sufferer has a belief that her children’s best interest and hers are synonymous. The father’s needs and desires are irrelevant to her. She believes herself and her children to be a single unit. For the children, it’s a symbiotic relationship in which the mother feeds off her child because motherhood makes her feel special, and all powerful. Th...

Oh joy. Another Blog. Just what the world needs. Another blog.