A Rant. Perhaps...

 In an unusual post (source) we have a rather lively debate about the nature of women. In the comments is a nugget of truth which is a thread that I've pulled in my own time of contemplations. 

Let’s face. They won. They effectively ruined tangible consequences with their insistence on abortion being legal, and they are taking away peoples ability to feel shame and legalize drugs to quiet the conscience that tells them maybe what they are doing might not be right. With societal approval to make foolish decisions, who would ever turn to the alternative except out of necessity? 

I recognize that mankind has always tried to "have their cake and eat it too" on the whole. What I think is different in the last few generations is the availability of the tools to actually achieve that elusive goal of "eat and be merry" without worrying about the future. We give away abortions. We forgive student debts. We pay people to stay home from work. We create paths for people to get benefits for illegitimate illnesses. We wipe away debts in Chap 7 bankruptcy. We let miscreants (minor and major) walk away from crime scenes unscathed. The list goes on.*

Consider the impact of a court system that forces men to pay child-support and alimony to the woman who destroys her family through her own decisions and actions. It matters not to the court (or nearly anyone else) that her broken vow, her wandering heart, her self-centered actions are the precipitating events that result in the broken marriage. She gets to have her cake, and then continue to eat it while her family is diminished. Her husband a broken (likely broke) soul who now harbors inner fears that EVERY woman is the same as the one who promised to love him. Her children now have to shuffle back-and-forth between their father and her, losing out on the benefit of a stable home. 

So what that her life isn't what it was before. Maybe she has to live diminished for a while until she can find her next meal ticket. Do you know what she hears from her friends and society?  "It's not fair that you have to live like that. Your ex is such a monster for taking away your nice things. You got this girl, you're so strong and independent. You can do this.." No one condemns her for the choices she made that drove her former husband to the point of no return. She gets to spend the rest of her life in self-righteous indignation while someone else pays the ultimate price.

On the other side of that coin are the condemnations and recriminations against the man for having the nerve to expect his wife to be loyal to her word and to him. How dare he believe that his hard work and sacrifice would be met with similar commitment from his spouse. What kind of monster won't go to work for 10+ hours per day and then come home and NOT take care of his house and kids? Who in their right mind actually believes that a father and mother should be raising their kids with responsibilities and expectations? And for the sake of all that is holy, who the f... expects a woman to remain faithful in this day and age? She can feel whatever and do whatever and flirt with whoever...

*Yes. I know I paint with a broad brush and that some of the people who benefit from our "largess" are actually deserving. I also know (from personal experience) that bankruptcy isn't a give away, especially when it's a chapter 13. However, anyone reading this would be a liar if they said that these programs are only used by the deserving few.